I just thought I’d like to link to a post over at Scalzi’s Whatever, because he’s managed to explain something that I’ve struggled to communicate to friends and family for years – namely, that I’m an introvert, even though it may not look like it. Here’s the man himself:
Iâ€™m not faking my generally sociable nature. But I think thereâ€™s a difference between playing well with others, and genuine extroversion, in which being with other people is energizing to that person. As much as I like people and being with them, Iâ€™m not energized by them; sooner or later I turn into a pumpkin and go off to have time by myself, in order to recenter and hit the â€œresetâ€ button, and to be presentable to other human beings once more. Which is to say the way I energize is to spend time by myself, which is a classic introvert thing.
Now, more fool me for never reading up on this stuff before – but that bit in bold, there? That’s what I’ve tried to tell people about myself for close to two decades, and there it is in ten simple words. (Bonus resonance: a good friend of mine jokingly calls me “pumpkin boy” when I slope off home from the pub before closing time. At least I assume that’s why, and that it’s not a comment about the size and shape of my head… )
Further down in the same post:
… on a day-to-day basis I just donâ€™t get out much to see anyone. How do I feel about that? Just fine, thanks. Being alone works for me; I get writing done, I get thinking done, and generally speaking I keep myself suitably amused. I really like seeing my friends when I see them, and I wish I saw them more (including the one just an hour from me). But Iâ€™m not going stir-crazy out here in the sticks. It suits my temperament well.
Also, you know: hi, people coming to my blog. Thanks for providing me daily low-impact fraternization. The Internet was made for introverts, I suspect.
Yes; yes, it was. That’s why I pretty much live on the internet, I guess. 🙂
So thanks, John; you’ve made this little geek feel a lot more comfortable about what he previously thought was a pretty major personality dichotomy. May your thinking time always be interrupted as little as possible, sir. [image courtesy frielp]